Category: Let's talk
This is just me venting well no I wish I had the spirit for that ..this comes from the Friendship post..if you were on the verge of losing someone, who meant so much that you can't conceive of life without them, and they wanted and needed to go, would you let them walk out of your life or fight to change their mind...
You finally decided to leave the Zone??????? Star
Star, I think you made your point some time ago. Leaving personal, rude and irrelevent posts after everything Alex has to say is supposed to achieve what, precisely?
Exactly. Back to the original question: If a friend felt they have to leave... Do you mean like if they felt they had to cut off contact with you because of circumstances? Not sure I get the question, but from how I understand it, if they felt they had to go, I would try to talk to them, but if they're mind was set, I don't feel like I can make them stay. I had a friend like that: we were best friends and still are good friends, but because of the man she married, whom I really don't even know when we used to talk about almost everything, I haven't seen her in several years even though I had several chances. Although I've been wanting to, I don't trust the man. At first, it was hard to believe I wouldn't be seeing her, but after awhile, I kind of gotten used to it, and we still talk on the phone and computer. We'll probably get to hang out eventually, but for now I wouldn't feel comfortable with that.
Leilani
Dont worry Erin I put her on ignore so her post is irrelevant..but I appreciate what you said..
Tinkerbell yes its due to unfortunate and very tricky circumstances which I can't discuss here..we had a long session yesterday in the end it all came to nothing...The situation with your friend sounds tricky...quite often a controlling husband will prevent his spouse from contacting her friends,due to the need to make her solely dependent on him...I hope this isn't the case but it sounds strange when you 2 were so close...
Well, I guess it depends on why the friend felt he/she needed to walk away. In reality, a true friend should never need to walk out on his/her friends, unles, for instance, it was a friendship that had potential to develop into something more, and where parties other than the two people involved could get hurt. In that case, you would need to question why you wanted that person to stay, and whether you would both be better off together (and by together i mean in a friendship perspective) or apart.
Hmm well without giving anything away this all stems from me being unable to cope with a life changing event concerning this person. This has created a void between myself and my friend..which has left us all but unable to be in the same room without wounding each other ..however in spite of this, I would be lost if they were to leave with little hope of reconciliation.
there is NO chance of this developing into anything and I'm definately glad of that..
well going by what you're saying, it sounds as if, if this friend stays in your life, there is the potential that the two of you will fall out anyway and that the friendship could be lost. however, if the friend left, then there is always the possibility that, at some point in the future, when events are less raw, you could regain contact and potentially restore the friendship at a later date.
Hope is the last to die according to the Russians, so I will just have to accept this and everything that has caused this hassle..
hmm... star, you are quite mean with that question... i mean I would take it as a joke but.... still, hurts... anyways... well if one of my friends needs to leave, I would let them go; they are not myself and there is nothing I can do about it; otherwise I would talk to them about the sircumstances and well if posible convince them to stay... hmm,
Please! If you were all smart enough you would have noticed a very obvious pattern. Goblin's posts are as follow: there is a period where he attacks everyone, then when everyone is annoyed by him comes a period when he keeps a low profile and doesn't post or just posts 'neutral' subjects. Then when the tide wave of anger is forgotten comes a period where he posts heart breaking posts. And when everyone is back on his side he lauches yet another attack. If you don't believe me do a small reserch. Look at the dates of the posts that where like this one heart breaking and look at the dates of the annoying posts. Dah! But I guess if you were any smart you wouldn't be falling into Goblin's emotional 'traps'... Star (P.S. I just love the fact that Goblin can't even read my posts! It rocks!!!)
Hmm Lou I hope that if this ever happens to you that your friends are less determined than mine..
It is note worthy that not only people on the zone seen to "backstub" Goblin, but also his friends in real life! And he still doesn't get the message that it is he himself who is the cause... Sad, sad, sad... Star